How parents can support their children during exams
Author: Mpho Motloung
Publish date: 2 November 2019
We contributed expect advice on parents can support their children during this stressful exam period. Please see the tips below:
For a full article check out Move Magazine, September Edition, page 61
Here are some tips on how parents can support and boost their kids performance during the exams
- Talk to your kids about expectations
It doesn’t help to just say they must pass. Define what a pass should look like and help them get there. 75% in English, 75% in Maths, 80% in English is more specific than saying: "You better pass those exams." This will help you and your child set realistic goals and set out steps on how to achieve these marks. It is important for your child to know exactly what you are expecting from them and what it means to get a certain mark.
- Do not compare your child Many parents make a mistake of spending a lot of time talking about a certain cousin who is so smart, and the child should look up to them. Avoid telling your child they should be like so and so. That makes them feel unvalued and that they are not good enough. Instead focus on your child’s strength. Remind them how they passed physics so well in the last exam and that you believe they can do it. Speak only in a positive language that emphasises that you are proud of them no matter what.
- Give them a break off some chores
Many kids have a lot of chores that they are responsible for. However, exam time is already exhausting for children. They also need extra time to study, revise and rest so that they are fresh and ready for the exams. Take them off the dishes duty, if it means you helping them with taking care of the laundry please do that. Allow them time to focus and rest and much as possible.
- Get some previous question papers and help them practice
There are a lot of websites that design and load revision question papers for all school grades. You can also design your own by using your child’s notes and workbooks. This also allows you to spend extra time with your child and might allow you to spot and distress should your child be going through/experiencing exam related stress.
- Be interested in them and what they are doing
What are they doing? What subject are they studying? Which section are they enjoying the most/least? This should give you an idea of where they are struggling and needing help. But is also makes your child see that you are available and you care.